How FAT am I “supposed” to be?
In a world surrounded by health and fitness “experts” and “influencers” there are many opinions about what to eat and not eat and how often to eat. How fat is too fat? How skinny is too skinny? How much muscle should I have? How much muscle is too much muscle? If you ask 10 different people they will have 10 different ideas. If you’re following someone on IG, the question should be who is paying them and what are they selling?
Good fat, bad fat. Yes sugar, no sugar. Macros or Keto? Intermittent fasting or taking supplements until your pants fall off! So, many, options and so many ideas. What do I do!!!
I have found what most people want is to look good and feel good. Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you see the health and reality of your choices.
1 - Who am I looking at as a gage for what I am “suppose” to look like? Age, lifestyle, body type… Do they “fitness” for a living?
2 - Is it sustainable? Do I enjoy these changes and can I see myself doing this for a long period of time?
3 - Is what I’m doing with my fitness and nutrition a season or a lifestyle?
4 - Am I partnering with the lifestyle/seasonal change that I’m choosing? Do you use language like, “I’m not allowed to eat this.” Or “They are making me do this.”
Those are just a few questions we should keep in mind as we step into making changes with our fitness and nutrition. Questions that bring us back to reality. Questions to bring us back to ourselves. You know, that beautiful woman looking back in the mirror at you, yea her! She is your friend and you should treat her as such.
Often we choose things that are ALL in or ALL out and we want to look like the 20 year old Instagram fitness model who is just that, 20 years old!! Or the woman who is 70, and looks like a 20 year old and you tell yourself, “if she can do it, I can do it” which, is not true. We use that phrase as motivation and are inspired by their hard work but you are not the same person. Start with you!! With reality!
Women’s bodies are curvy, naturally. This is how we were designed. The design is to bear children and to do so we NEED fat on our body. Whether we were able to have children or not, it’s our design. I am very aware that not every body is the same. Some women are genetically more slender, others heavier set. If you want sustainable change, you have to start with your relationship to YOUR body. Acknowledge the places where you have fallen short and need a change. Give yourself some grace and understanding. Choose a nutrition and fitness plan that’s is healthy and sustainable for you. It’s important that you are friends with YOU and YOUR body first!!! That is and excellent place to start.
